Posts by Pete Zahut

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My BPD Sister Passed Away

by babygirl30 in

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friends

i have started this, then restarted it, and it still sucks to even write this out - but my younger sister passed away unexpectedly last saturday (on my birthday).

i am going through all the grieving emotions, but there is more to the story that i could never and would never talk about to anyone that didn't understand the jw rhetoric.

so...here i am.. my sister has had borderline personality disorder (bpd) for as long as i can remember.

Pete Zahut

What I DO want...is at the very least, a relationship with her, a chance to get to know her and vice versa, an opportunity to be her 'support' through this. Instead, I fear the shunning will resume and I'll go back to being shut out of her life again and forever

There's a saying...

"It's easier to put on a pair of slippers than to try and carpet the whole world".

In other words, do whatever you can within your own power and within your own circumstances rather worry about what might happen or try to control what others may do. All you can do is take things as they come, behave honorably and let time take care of the rest.

I grew up for the most part in the U.S. with all of my relatives living in Europe. As a kid, I only saw them a handful of times for a short period of time but the impact those short visits had on me was quite remarkable. A few day to a kid seems like a long time. Later in life we were able to pick up right where we left off as if no time had passed at all. There's some kind of chemistry that takes place between family members that can't be explained. I think your Niece will probably feel the same way when she's older. She will remember fondly the times you spent together and will see the subtle resemblances you have to her mother. She will be old enough to realize the situation and will see you for who you are.

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My BPD Sister Passed Away

by babygirl30 in

jw
friends

i have started this, then restarted it, and it still sucks to even write this out - but my younger sister passed away unexpectedly last saturday (on my birthday).

i am going through all the grieving emotions, but there is more to the story that i could never and would never talk about to anyone that didn't understand the jw rhetoric.

so...here i am.. my sister has had borderline personality disorder (bpd) for as long as i can remember.

Pete Zahut

As I was reading your post a couple of things came to mind.

First, I was hoping that as difficult as it was to do, your laying it all out the way you did, brought you some peace of mind and it sounds like it did.

Secondly, as I read, I noticed that even though you are fully aware of sisters mental illness, on some level may be trying to make sense of her actions toward you and are still feeling the sting of the hurtful words and behavior. This is a pretty common and natural thing to do, especially when it's a family member. When there is a violent crime committed, the first thing people want to know of the accused is "what was he thinking...how could he do such a thing?". They are trying to use logic and rational thinking to make sense of the actions of a crazy person. You lived with your sister since childhood so her crazy behavior, as odd as it was, was part of your "normal" day to day life and could be part of the reason why it's so hard to get over. If you worked in a mental care facility and your sister was one of the patients there, you'd be able to dismiss everything she said and did and put it all down to her mental illness. Because as a child, you lived with it day in and day out, you couldn't always see it objectively the way an outsider could.

It's been a long goodbye and right now rather than mourning your sister directly, you are in a sense, mourning your childhood. You're feeling sorrow for your younger self and what you suffered at the hands of your mentally ill sister and suffering the loss of what could have been. On top of that, your sorrow is compounded by the loss of the consolation that family members can bring at these times.

I hope it helps to be reminded that all of this came about through no fault of your own. You didn't choose for your sister to be afflicted with mental illness and you didn't choose to be brought into a religion that causes otherwise rational loving parents to fear god so much that to save their own hides, they must turn their backs on their own offspring.

Memorial and Funerals are to help the living grieve and under the circumstances no one would blame you for not attending however doing so may give your family an excuse to resume their shunning. If you are able to attend and view it as a way to honor the memory of your sister and bring closure to and unfortunate situation, it may bring you a measure of peace in knowing that no matter what others do or say, you did the honorable thing.

In the meantime, you'll need to trust that time will be a friend to you in all of this and that you'll come to grips with all of the troubling feelings your are experiencing at the moment.

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Latest Circuit Assembly Money Assault!

by eyeuse2badub in

probably not new to many of you but i'm gonna post it anyway!.

i went to a circuit assembly last week at the fremont, ca assembly hall in fremont, ca to be with my wife so she could be there to 'witness' the baptism of a person she "studied" with about 2 decades ago!.

at the main entry to the assembly hall there are 3 or 4 large double door entrances.

Pete Zahut

. They cover it during sessions so if yoy dont remember to use if at break too bad

Lest Jesus show up and overturn the money machine in his fathers place of worship.

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Latest Circuit Assembly Money Assault!

by eyeuse2badub in

probably not new to many of you but i'm gonna post it anyway!.

i went to a circuit assembly last week at the fremont, ca assembly hall in fremont, ca to be with my wife so she could be there to 'witness' the baptism of a person she "studied" with about 2 decades ago!.

at the main entry to the assembly hall there are 3 or 4 large double door entrances.

Pete Zahut

In addition there were 2 ATM's also located in the foyer with a sister posted at each of the ATM's.

Why would they need a sister posted at an ATM?? Is she there to make them feel as if someone is seeing how much they donate or if they are pretending to donate? Maybe she's there to collect PIN numbers LOL !

I remember when the idea was that when you'd make a contribution, you wouldn't want to be conspicuous about it. I can't imagine standing in the foyer of an assembly hall and using an ATM. I imagine there are those who like being seen standing at the ATM. I wonder of you can make a withdrawal?

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How can a building dedicated to God, be sold?

by krismalone in

i was just wondering this morning about all the kingdom halls and branches being sold to "babylon the great" and other businesses.

every single kingdom hall and bethel branch that has been sold was "dedicated to jehovah" by the watchtower corporation.

a special meeting with a guest speaker gives a talk and then offers a prayer dedicating the building to yhwh.

Pete Zahut

Just because they decided to dedicate a building to Jehovah, doesn't mean it ever was or that he accepted it or even exists for that matter. Nothing they've ever said or done is true or real so why should this be any different?

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Has leaving made you racist

by Steel in

so i use to go this hall that was basically 100 percent white and basically anyone under the age of 40 has either faded or makes a token effort to keep the peace at home, of course outside of the usual dregs of society .

the hall went from two congs to one and i was quite happy that in ten years they would be lights out.

then in the last two years about six young filipino families have moved in and three of them are newly baptized .

Pete Zahut

I feel like a horrible person for thinking like this.

It was your mother's theory not yours. If you feel horrible about it....quit thinking that way.

Poor pre-natal care can cause all sorts of problems including learning issues. I think that rather than because of intelligence issues, the reason you're seeing so many folks from these areas is because they are often easily impressed or taken in by all things western. When you get to know them, they often don't fully "get" what the religion is really about. Because of cultural differences, they don't see it the same way as someone from the west does. When it comes to religion, they seem to gloss over the hard realities of the doctrines they believe in and are more interested in the routine and rituals that make them feel safe and gives them sense of belonging that comes with associating with a group of people. They are usually much more flexible about things than a JW from the west, JW's have a prepackaged program that makes it easy for new ones to belong, which is nice but it doesn't mean they have the ultimate truth or are the one true religion and that anyone who doesn't join them is and enemy of god and a follower of satan, as they claim.

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I watched the movie "Two Popes" today ,Netflix.

by smiddy3 in

and i thouroughly enjoyed it ,i almost got to the stage of wanting to become a catholic.

it was a joy to watch the two main actors in dialogue and banter with each other..... and i`m an atheist ?.

pope benedict & pope francis.

Pete Zahut

And I thoroughly enjoyed it ,I almost got to the stage of wanting to become a Catholic.

Francis and Benedict had vastly different ideas on the way the church should go.

Perhaps they disagreed upon the policy of their corpses being put on display for the public for a few decades after they died. I toured Vatican City and St Peter's Basilica a few months ago and although impressive, as bad as the GB is and how blindly JW's follow them, I couldn't help but wonder what would happen if they dug up Charles Taze Russel and put him on display at the new HQ in New York. Would people flock to take pictures and kiss his glass tomb. It was pretty weird.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yx4cfcMGkHE

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Police and Fire Department Officials in Guatemala Benefit From Bible-Based Workshops

by TheFadingAlbatros in

https://www.jw.org/en/news/jw/region/guatemala/police-and-fire-department-officials-in-guatemala-benefit-from-bible-based-workshops/.

i am surprised that a government authority is calling on a religious organization to give their police and fire department officials instructions to behave in a better way with the guatemalan population.

the organization of jehovah's witnesses is well known to separate families (shunning) and have in the past protected numerous pedophiles within their organization ( maybe they are still doing it now somewhere in secret, who knows ?

Pete Zahut

There must be more to this...there usually is. I'm guessing a JW is employed with the Police Dept. or the local Police know the JW's because they are on the street and were offered free instruction. Perhaps the Police department wanted to know more about these people since they encounter them so often on their beat.

I'm not sure how the JW's will get around to telling the Police that they are employed by a government run by Satan and now that they've heard the message, they're all going to die soon if they don't become JW's.

Law enforcement personnel need instruction from highly trained professionals who have thoroughly examined the complexities of law enforcement rather than the simplistic answers they'll get from any JW publication. It's all very well to teach the Police to be nice and kindly but the criminals they are encountering aren't playing by the same rules and they need to know how to deal with them from both a legal and psychological standpoint.

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Help with my novel I'm writing

by pimonotforlong in

i don't know if i'm submitting this under the proper subject area, but i had a question i was wondering if anyone had any expertise on.. i'm writing a ya novel inspired by my experiences growing up and being a teenager as a jehovah's witness.

it is a fictional story though.

however, my critiquing beta readers are torn between whether i should make it the actual jw religion in the book, or if i should make a fictional religion based on the jws.

Pete Zahut

Oh if only there were a place we could go to go for answers. LOL !

You'd definitely need to consult an attorney but I'm guessing some sort of disclaimer at the beginning would be necessary.

Or maybe you could just name the religion in your story something suspiciously close to Jehovah's Witnesses.

Yahweh's Chosen Witnesses

Armageddon Watchers

Witnesses of his holiness

Watchtower's Witnesses

Latter Day Witnesses

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Just a moan - regarding the latest trend in ignorance of the English language!

by The Fall Guy in

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friends

in recent months i have noticed more and more people on the net (including here) are using this latest perversion of the english language -.

"i would of done this..........or he would of tried to change things".

it's would've - short for would have!.

Pete Zahut

The one I hate is when people don't pronounce the T or D sounds in certain words or the N'T sound when using a contraction such as wouldn't or didn't. This seems to be mostly done by young women.

The word WOULDN'T becomes WUH'-ENT and the word DIDN'T becomes DI'- ENT

Even in the JW Caleb and Sophia video where the repeatedly mother say's Say'-en instead of Satan.

The word OFTEN becomes OFFEN. I offen go out in field service but this week I di'-ent. I wood-a, but Sa'-en the devil woo'-ent let me.